Jim

Thu, 23 Feb 2006 17:57:47 GMT

Jim became family by marrying into it. Jim is one of the odd ducks that every family has. He's quite strange yet loveable and been "there" for me more times than not. Just kinda missed the boat on some of the especially critical times I needed him to be there. I can't say it's his fault though because I consider myself one of those "high maintenance" relationships. One of the the times I needed him most was when my Daddy died, he couldn't be there for me because he had just started dating someone. Of course that caused some issues because I thought 18 years of closeness should have tipped the scales my way over the bimbo he'd known a couple of months. The fact that I had taken more than a week off work and stayed glued to his side during the time he lost his mother should have meant more than it did. All I expected was the support I had shown him. In all fairness I've hurt him deeply at times and he still loves me. I am lucky to have him to love and have his love. Our relationship is not perfect, but we love each other, have an undying passion for each other, like each other, enjoy spending time together and appreciate one another. Things in our lives have happened that has chipped away at the trust and respect that we used share, but we are a lifelong deal. We're family. We're also friends. We're not going to be over until one of us actually dies, and then I'm not sure that will even end it for us. One of the things someone has to understand about me is my loyalty to Jim if they want to be part of my life. This is one of those things that isn't negotiable. If you want me, Jim is part of the package. Might sound harsh, but real love doesn't end. People are not disposable and you don't trade them in for another model. You work it out, no matter what it requires and in the end it's worth it.Jim started off being my friend, we became lovers, got married, got divorced, were lovers and stayed friends through it all. Jim is a walking encyclopedia and trivia fact book. He's so amazing in as much as he can recall facts easily. Very detailed information is burned into his mind and retrieved instantly. For instance, he can tell you an incredible amount of information about a sports figure (past or present). Name a boxer from the past and he'll tell you how many fights, wins, losses, who his opponents were, how the match went round by round and often what the judges score cards were if it was a decision. He remembers the typical temperature and dew points for most of the world, population of every country and major city in the world and how every state has voted in the presidential elections from day one. He also never loses an argument and should have been an attorney. He is one of the most amazing people I've ever met and I credit him for saving my life and sanity. We are what we are and work on becoming better at it. Jim helps me be a better me because he loves me.

Most of us have one...

Thu, 23 Feb 2006 10:40:07 GMT

Family! Where do I begin? I have one. Sometimes I even like the members of my family ... SOME of them! lol ... We ALL have someone in our family that we'd like to keep in the attic. Most of us have someone we can go to for help when we're in need of something. We tend to look to family members often if we need money, help with any number of things from babysitting to installing a new roof... and a FEW of us have a family member we might even seek advice from. Yes, it's true! This is NOT to be confused with all those people you are related to that OFFER it even when you wish they wouldn't (about 99% of your blood relation). Families are important. We learn so much from them. I learned as much "NOT what to do" as I did "helpful living skills" from my family :)

The best part of having a family is this: If you don't like your family, you can always adopt another one or create your own. It might not be "blood", but we all need that core group of people that we know we can rely on to be there once a year when we gather to devour the dry turkey.

My Space (isn't that original?): Family

Jim

Most of us have one...